Once you found the courage to say “Hi!” to a girl you’ll be facing one of the most common difficulties men have with women: getting into-, and keeping up a conversation.
You are probably looking for a girl who shares some of your interests and a girl you will never feel bored with. Such a person makes everything easy for you. Including a conversation.
So why should you struggle to get into a relationship with a girl, you don’t even feel comfortable talking to? There is no need to do that.
If you make use of the tips below and the conversation is still not going anywhere there is a phrase you may remember from an earlier post: “It’s ok!” Excuse yourself and just walk away. By doing that you will only seem more attractive. So don’t force it! If the chemistry isn’t right, deal with it.
“With the right girl, everything is easy.”
Once you have realized it´s ok not to be a great fit with everyone, you will also lose the sense of neediness women can smell from miles away. Once you install this thought in your mind, the only important thing is to approach a woman with confidence and authenticity. You see, everything is leading back to your mindset again.
Some useful tips for a successful conversation
Be honest
Don’t rethink every thought. If something pops into your mind say it! It’s a little cocky? If it’s honest that’s ok. Remember: It’s always better to say what comes to mind, screw up and apologize for it than to stay safe. Staying safe and filtering what you want to say is the highest risk you can take because it takes away all the controversy and forces you to have the same standard, shallow conversations all the time. Mark Manson cites in his fantastic book “Models” Robert Glover:
“Humans are attracted to each other’s rough edges.”
Speak your mind and your rough edges will show.
Listen
If you listen carefully you will not run out of things to say that fast. Try not to drift away. You’re busy listening, so leave your thoughts aside!
Talk about things you like
You’ll probably be most confident talking about the things you love. Excitement is infectious!
Don’t interview her
Ask her about her life, but also respond to what she is saying. It´s not an interview and not a monolog! You can avoid interviewing her by asking open-ended questions. Example:
“What do you like most about your job?”, “What was the best part of your vacation?”… I think you see where this is going.
If you want some inspiration on what you could ask her, here is a list with a ton of open-ended questions, we’ve put together for you.
Make her laugh
If there is any chance for you to make her laugh, do it!
Don’t use canned lines
Don’t use memorized conversations like routines or openers. It will always feel a little fake to her.
Compliment her
There is an easy trick when it comes to compliments and again it´s called honesty. Maybe look for details you like. Her earrings or the way her lip is shaking when she laughs. It’s ok if she is a little embarrassed. 😉 Another tip: Beautiful girls like to be complimented on their personal qualities.
Tease her
But always stay charming. Hint: teasing can be softened through touching.